These 10 Green Flags Mean He’s Worth Your Time

Let’s get down to it—too many good women settle for “bare minimum men.” If a guy can eventually text back and remember your birthday, that should never earn him boyfriend of the year. Dating with high standards isn’t about being picky; it’s about protecting your peace and investing in someone who actually adds value to your life. You should be looking for ways to add value to their life as well. Here are ten green flags that signal he’s worth your time. (Double check yourself here too)

Green flags that separate real men from time-wasters

Consistency. He follows through. He is reliable. He does what he says he will do. He shows up emotionally. No disappearing acts or random mood swings.
Respect. He values your opinions and hears you out. He learns your about you and honors your boundaries. He does not waste your time. He plans time together and gives you a heads up when things don't go as planned and then MAKES UP for it. I'm not saying he has to spend big bucks or over compensate, just show remorse about not being able to do what you planned and show effort to make it right. That's what someone who likes you does.
Emotional maturity. He talks through problems instead avoiding them or pretending that nothing happened or throwing silent treatment tantrums. Honest mature communication must happen or relationships will fail.
Kindness. Not just to you—watch how he treats waiters, pets, and his family. Especially look for the way he treats the women in his life. Genuine kindness, not just kind gestures for show.
Effort. He plans dates, remembers details, and doesn’t leave all the emotional labor to you. He checks in on you and how you are feeling. He is there for you and knows when you are having a hard time. If a guy cannot put forth effort in the beginning of a relationship, he doesn't respect you enough to be in a long-term committed relationship.
Communication. He loves talking to you. He actually listens, not just waits for his turn to talk. He makes time to plan, communicate and resolve issues. He doesn't get defensive every time you want to talk a problem out.
Accountability. He owns his mistakes and doesn’t shift blame. He doesn't use the moment you bring up an issue as a time to compare or air his issues that he didn't ever talk to you about until you wanted to course correct something you were having a problem with.
Support. He encourages your goals instead of feeling threatened by them. He loves to see you reach higher and cheers you on. Relationships should be synergistic. Both of you should be better versions of yourself because you are in a healthy balanced relationship.
Integrity. His words and actions align—he doesn’t say one thing and do another. He doesn't make excuses for his actions. He is totally honest and does not try to manipulate you.
Self-awareness. He’s working on himself and doesn’t expect you to be his therapist. Nor does he take you for granted and expect you to pick up where his mom left off. You are not his secretary unless he pays you to be. You should be working on being a partner.

High standards don’t mean impossible expectations; they mean recognizing your worth. When you stop entertaining men who only show up halfway, you make room for the ones who meet you where you are. They ARE out there. They too are looking for something real. Don't settle, it's painful and you are only wasting your time.